Usually, I’m pretty good at being a ear hustler and there are only a few times that I’ve blown my cover of nosiness. The funniest time was at the outlets up in Williamsburg, Virginia. There was a family from France visiting and they were sitting out on the bench talking and telling jokes in French. Mainly they were complaining! The dad of this family tells a joke and we all start laughing, yeah me to. They stop laughing immediately. Not me of course. They all just stare at me. I play it cool, finish my cigarette and politely say good-bye to them in French and walk away quickly.
This instance was mild in comparison to what happened Thursday at my duty section muster. I was standing there with my little clip board taking attendance as the Sailors walked up. I was kept standing there while two more girls walked up and started talking.
***LET ME STOP RIGHT HERE AND CLARIFY! I BELIEVE A WOMAN’S BODY IS HER OWN AND SHE IS FREETO DO WHAT EVER SHE WANTS WITH IT!***
Now back to the dumbest shit I’ve heard so far this year.
Girl #1 I am tired of getting underway on the nasty ass ship and I am sik of the bitches on here.
Girl #2 Shit me too! I still have three years left on here, I think I am going to have me a baby. I’m going to get pregnant soon.
Girl #1 What you mean soon? Who is going to be your baby daddy?
Girl #2 I haven’t picked one yet. (Names some random dude) was supposed to be that (expletetive cannot repeat) but he on restriction and getting kicked out. That (bad word) on some dumb shit!
Girl #1 For REAL? What yo dumb ass need a baby for anyway?
Girl #2 So I can get off this ship. I aint trying to keep the baby, no way! I just want to get pregnant so I can get off of here.
Girl #1 You gotta have the baby, boo boo! You can’t leave for good unless you do!
Girl #2 Well if that’s the case then I’m going to just do it then. I’m gonna have a little baby?
ME: WHAT? SO YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE A BABY JUST SO YOU CAN GET OFF THE SHIP? YOU CAN HONESTLY EQUATE 18 YEARS (AT LEAST) COMPARED TO THREE MORE YEARS ON THIS SHIP? I’M SORRY BUT THAT’S STUPID. THE NAVY IS GOING TO SEND YOU BACK TO SEA AFTER THE KID IS BORN TO FINISH YOUR SEA TIME. NOW YOU HAVE A BABY TO FIGURE OUT WHAT TO DO WITH, AN UNDERWAY SCHEDULE, AND UNNECCESARY BABY DADDY DRAMA. LEFT TO JUGGLE ALL AT ONCE. WOMEN LIKE YOU SET ALL THE WOMEN IN THE NAVY WHO ARE DOING GREAT THINGS BACK SO FAR.
I received two blank stares and then Girl #1 said, “Petty Officer, she stupid. She ain’t having no baby.” Then they walked away.
Sadly, I wish that I could say that she probably won’t get pregnant soon. It’s just the craziest thing ever. I still don’t understant why these girls make spur of the moment decisions that impacts their life so profoundly. I have been trying to understand now for the last 17 years and I still don’t understand.
What I get out of this conversation is talking points for my own children. Hell, it may even be someone who thinks that their situation may be out of control right now but it’s only a temporary situation. I will make sure my kids know that what ever they may be going through that it’s only a temporary situation. They need to always take their time with their decisions because one decision good or bad, can change their lifes forever.
I wish I could say I felt bad for butting in to their conversation but I don’t. Maybe my words may change her mind…